Are you in a rut? Are you feeling emotional all the time, tired, annoyed, maybe a bit snappy?
Is feeling flat and fed up your natural state these days?
I’ve definitely been in that state and I know a lot of people who have been, or are still there too. It’s really sucky right? Everyday just feels a bit grey and heavy, it’s a real effort to do anything and you wonder when was the last time that you actually had fun or felt really excited about something.
This way of being could have gone on forever if I hadn’t taken the first incredibly hard but important step towards happiness.
I had to admit to myself that I was unhappy, I had to admit to myself that I needed some help to get back on track. For ages before I got to this point I distracted myself with other things like shopping, binge watching TV, social media black holes and eating too much chocolate.
Then I started to admit it to myself but didn’t take full ownership of it. I blamed my lack lustre attitude on external things. I identified that I wasn’t happy in my job so I looked for a different job. That didn’t fix the problem either. As important as your job is to your fulfilment and happiness, it isn’t the whole thing, you gotta fix the foundations first and that is on the inside.
Once I had gotten to that point I knew I needed some extra help. That’s when I fully admitted it. It wasn’t the nicest thing to admit to myself, I had always been so happy and on top of things, I felt like I was in control of my life and happiness and then all of a sudden I wasn’t. But it was my desire to get back to happiness and success that gave me the nudge to do what I needed to do.
It’s not always easy or comfortable to admit to yourself what you need to do to make happiness and success your natural state. Sometimes you gotta cross a shaky rope bridge over scary waters with Sharks with laser beams attached to their heads (Austin Powers reference in-case you read that and just thought I was a massive weirdo) to get to the other side where life is great and you can take on anything that comes your way.
It can be really off putting to cross that bridge so you make up excuses not to, or distract yourself from it by eating or drinking too much, binge watching tv and spending too much money on clothes you’ll only wear once etc.
I promise you that as soon as you admit it, you’ll find the courage to take those first steps and then before you know it that feeling of being in a rut, feeling flat and fed up, will be a distant memory.
Life is too short to stay miserable.