What is your purpose? It’s one of those annoying things where you know it when you know it but up until that point you have no idea. It could be one of many different things you’re good at or you enjoy doing, but how can you be sure which one it is? When is it safe to pursue one of them to see if it’s the right one? It feels like a scary commitment because there’s no turning back!!! By the way, you totally can change course, it’s not like you took a blood oath right? Or at least I’m assuming you didn’t.
I spent a good few years feeling unfulfilled and frustrated because I didn’t know where my purpose and potential were hiding. So if you’re reading this and you’re in the same position, I get it, the struggle is real. Lucky for you, I have since found mine and now I can share some wisdom with you to help make your journey a lot less sad and frustrating.
There are three things you need to have in place before you can truly uncover your purpose.
Take a second to imagine yourself at your happiest and most confident. You know you’re worthy of love and success and you feel completely at ease with yourself. Then someone comes along and tells you that you’re a piece of crap and nobody likes you. It would suck right? What if you had to spend every day with that person for the rest of your life? You would have to be some sort of super human to not start believing it. The reality is that most of us do this to ourselves all the time. It is so much more detrimental than you think, believe me. From now on, if you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, don’t say it to yourself.
If you have low self love you’re more than likely to have low self confidence. Again it’s that voice telling you that you’re not good enough or that you’re gonna fail and be laughed at. This voice will talk you out of even trying things which in turn keeps your life small. When you hear that voice remind yourself that it’s not useful and send it on it’s way.
You need to have self love and confidence in place before you can achieve true authenticity. The reason is that underneath all those layers of self criticism and negativity lies your true authentic self. You just forget who that is when you’re consistently bombarding yourself with all the trash talk. Once you have peeled away the layers of crap that you tell yourself, you can get reacquainted with who you really are without worrying about judgement. This is where you find out what is truly important to you, what your core values are, your strengths and your skills. When you have the answers to these questions you can see what you have to offer the world.
You see it’s only when you clean off the crap that you can see what’s shiny and beautiful underneath. It allows you the space to think big, dig deep and realise where your skills align with your values. That is your purpose and the more you practice redirecting those negative thoughts and replacing them with ones that serve you, the quicker you’ll be able to find it. The thoughts you have influence your feelings, your feelings influence your actions and your actions result in your physical reality. So if you’re not too jazzed about your reality right now, think about how you can change it starting with some self love.