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Hi! I'm Amy, a Happiness & Personal Development Coach.
I started my journey as a self-employed Hairdresser. After about six years of this I could tell I needed to branch out (this was around the start of my quarter life crisis and I was looking for a new challenge), so I decided to train as a Pilates instructor and split my time between sorting out people's hair and sorting out people's bodies.
Becoming a Pilates instructor was a good distraction from my quarter life crisis for a while, but almost as soon as I'd past my exams I knew that it wasn't what I wanted for my future.
The search continued and I still felt totally confused about what I wanted to do with my life. I so desperately wanted to feel passionate and fulfilled by my work and as it stood, I just didn't. I felt lost and directionless and I was terrified of wasting my life feeling miserable and unfulfilled.
All I ever wanted was to be happy and at that time in my life, I felt far from it.
There was one particular day during my quarter life crisis that I remember very clearly...
I was at the salon, in the middle of styling a client's hair and all I could think was, "What if I just left right now, what would actually happen?"
The prospect of losing my job was actually tempting over the reality of having to stay there for even just a few more hours.
I felt panicked and claustrophobic. There was noise coming from everywhere - the radio, the hairdryers, the phone, the other clients and stylists talking as well as my client talking.
My head was chaotic and it took all of my strength to appear normal to my client and have a conversation with her. I felt like I should have won an oscar for my performance until one of my colleagues said "Are you ok? I thought you were gonna have a panic attack". I'm lucky enough to have never had one but I honestly believe I came close that day.
I had come to the realisation that the prospect of just doing this for the next 40 years was just not an option for me. The reason being was that I had chosen to do hairdressing in the first place because I didn't know what I wanted to do but I knew I'd be good at it. I liked the idea of having a skill I could do anywhere in the world - I have always wanted to travel. So I played it safe and chose a job that ticked a bunch of boxes, but choosing something that felt safe was a one way ticket to boredom, apathy, frustration and anxiety!
The problem was that although it ticked those boxes, it wasn't what I was supposed to be doing with my life and while my conscious mind didn't know that, my intuition did and it was screaming at me to do something about it.
This is when I trained as a Pilates Instructor. At the time I felt like this was a step forward but in reality it was just a step to the side.
In order to really move forward you need to get super honest with yourself and do things that are uncomfortable and scary.
Becoming a Pilates Instructor was neither uncomfortable (apart from the work outs) or scary. As a result it didn't take long for me to realise that my heart wasn't truly in that either which made it even harder to try and teach myself how to start up a business as an independent teacher.
At this point I was in full blown quarter-life-crisis mode. I was trying as hard as I knew how to figure out my life. I always knew I wanted to travel, have adventures, connect with people and cuddle as many cute animals as possible along the way but all of that seemed so out of reach.
I had no idea where to start, I was floundering in self-doubt and fear of failure whilst experiencing full on Brain Tornados 24/7...
1. The feeling of overwhelm and anxiety you get when you know you need to make a change but you don't know where to start.
2. Paralysis from moving in any direction caused by self-doubt, negative self-talk and fear of failure and regret.
I got to a point where I just fully decided to throw myself into figuring out what I really wanted. I was determined to get a handle on the self-doubt and fear I was feeling about branching out of my comfort zone.
So, I began reading tons of books and watching loads of Ted Talks and that's when I stumbled across Positive Psychology.
I was hooked immediately!
I knew with every part of me that this was what I had been looking for.
Since then I have been working and studying hard to become the best I can be and I believe I will always be learning and growing so that I can help others in the best way I possibly can.
I absolutely love what I do, I love guiding and supporting people to be happier, more confident and fulfilled. I love seeing them dream bigger and trust themselves to be able to do anything they set their mind to.
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